Gay Parenting

Canadian legislation now gives same-sex families rights never had before. The journey to parenthood for LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) parents has evolved significantly in the last years in terms of both legal and social acceptance.

Gay people who want to become parents now enjoy equally the possibilities, responsibilities and rights of straight people. And, unrelatedly to age, gender identity, or sexual orientation, all those considering having a child have the same doubt: “Will I be a good parent?”  the answer is easy, why not? You have the same chances of being a good parent if you are gay or straight.

Following the legalization of same-sex marriage in 2005 in Canada, the number of gay families has increased significantly, facilitating the route for gay couples’ dreams of having their own babies.

Changes in society, the evolution of assisted reproduction techniques, from IVF through to surrogacy, as well as adoption, make gay people can achieve their parenthood dream in Canada

So, being a gay man or couple does not have to mean going through life without having a  family of your own, let’s explore some of the gay parenting options.


Probably, surrogacy is one of the most popular options for gay prospective parents who want to be genetically linked to their baby in Canada.

In same-sex surrogacy, the most common kind of surrogacy is gestational surrogacy using an egg donor. This journey is quite similar to the journey of a straight couple or individual, thought a gay couple will need to make some decisions in advance.

The first one is to decide which of both fathers will be biologically linked to the baby, as it’s still not possible to use both father’s sperms to create the embryo.

The second decision will be whether or not to use an anonymous egg donor. Many gay couples use as a donor a family member, for example in one father provides the sperm, a sister of the other father could be the donor, though not always this option is possible. You must learn about the pros and cons of the different types of egg donation.


Adoption is also a common option for gay couples in Canada to achieve their parenthood dream. This option is a great option if not having a biological connection with your baby is not a problem.

Canada has no nationwide law legalizing same-sex adoption, however, gay adoption legalization in Canada began with British Columbia in 1996 and was finalized with Nunavut in 2011.

LGBT parenting options


Society is evolving and step by step gay parenting is more accepted, facilitating LGBT parents from moving forward and starting successful families.

Having babies is important to many people in the gay community. IVF clinics are equipped to advise patients on all the options a couple, or single person, have to expand their family. Last but not least, LGBT parents are strongly advised to work with a reputable attorney who is versed in fertility law throughout the family-building process in Canada.

What is a surrogate mother

This is probably one of the first questions for women thinking about surrogacy.

If you are seriously considering to become a surrogate mother and help others to become true their dream of parenthood, in the following videos you can learn more about how surrogacy works and how to become a surrogate.

How to become a surrogate mothers

Common surrogate mother requirements

Surrogacy will be a life-changing decision for you and your family.

How much does surrogacy cost? (part 2)

Learn more about surrogacy cost and surrogate mother cost

As you talk with your surrogacy agency to calculate your surrogacy costs, pay attention for low quotations, recurring fees or hidden costs. These are typically red flags to pay attention when you chose a surrogacy agency.

surrogacy cost

It can be complicated to foresee various surrogacy costs and give an accurate cost of surrogacy. If you are thinking about surrogacy as a way to grow your family, you will want to build a budget that that take in consideration the variable and fix cost of process

When you make your budget your need to consider: surrogate mother cost and reimbursement, fees for the surrogacy agency (if you decide to work with one), psychological assessment, medical procedures and screenings for the IPs and gestational carrier (also for the egg donor if you need one), lawyer s, as well as insurance for the pregnancy.

Normally agencies fees included prescreening of surrogates, management of appointments, and assistance during the matching process, etc when you chose an agency to pay attention to what services and fees are included and not included

Also, you need to know that surrogacy is not accurate science so cost could increase if the first transfer fail and you need more transfer, also if you run out of eggs from your first retrieval because you will need to pursue a second IVF and retrieval treatment.

How much does surrogacy cost is one is one of the first questions every intended parent and as you can see there are many elements affecting the final cost of your surrogacy journey and to give a precise quotation is really complicated so before starting make a list with all the services you will need to avoid surprises during the process. Also it’s better if you take in consideration the worst-case scenario to take in consideration factors like: What if the match doesn’t work out? What if the first transfer fail? etc

More info about third party reproduction here

How much does surrogacy cost

How much is surrogacy? This is probably the first question for almost every potential IPs. However the answer is not easy because there are many aspect that have an influence in the total cost of surrogacy

Below, find a list with an estimation of gestational surrogacy cost in US

  1. Agency fee $20.000 – $30.000
  2. Travel $3.000 – $4.000
  3. Psychological Evaluation $500 – $1000
  4. Trust management fee $1.000 – $2.000
  5. Legal fee – Contract $3.000 – $6.000
  6. Parentage order $5.000
  7. Medical expenses $10.000 – $20.000
  8. Surrogate reimbursement $20.000 – $40.000

Estimated cost $65.000 – $110.000

Please note, that in this least IVF treatment and the surrogate medical insurance have not been included. Also the final cost could change depending on the type of surrogacy process.

Agency Fee

The fee payed to the agency normally covers surrogacy facilitator services such as: pre-screening, matching, recruitment, coordination, concierge and mediation of medical expenses. You must pay attention what is included in the fee, is it a one-time fee? if the surrogacy cycle is not successful the first time, you can continue with the same surrogate mother or proceed with another candidate until positive results are achieved without paying another agency fee or you have to pay a new fee if you want to change your surrogate

Typically this fee is not refundable.


This amount will cover airfare (if needed), lodging, mileage, childcare base in two trips (IVF screening and embryo transfer) and any monitoring appointments if the surrogate is requested by the intended parents to attend the IVF clinic

Psychological Evaluation

A psychological evaluation for the surrogate should be done with a clinic psychologist

Escrow Account

The escrow company manages the disbursement of all the funds related to the surrogacy agreement and fund management agreement.

Lawyer – Surrogacy contract

This amount covers drafting, review and representation on the surrogacy agreement for both: intended parents and gestational carrier.

Parentage order

The Intended Parent shall also consider the payment of an lawyer for legal representation relative to obtaining a Judgment Parentage or adoption, if required. All court costs, filing fees and copying fees for a judicial declaration of parentage shall be paid by the Intended Parent. Depending on the state normally the process will begin at the 3rd or 4th month of gestation.

Medical Expenses

The Intended Parents are responsible for the surrogate medical coverage for the pregnancy, delivery and any procedures, appointments that she may incur after the delivery and related to their surrogacy cycle.

Also, they are responsible to reimburse Medical Expenses that surrogate will incur, as of the gestational pregnancy for his child.

Also a medical insurance for the new born need to be considered

Surrogate reimbursement

The surrogate mother cost usually include: Inject medication, Life insurance, Embryo transfers, Living expense reimbursement and/or Maternity clothing allowance

Other potential payments: dropped cycle, invasive procedures, restriction of activities/bed rest, surrogate’s lost wages, surrogate’s husband lost wages, cesarean section, hysterectomy and/or breast milk

There are many things to think about to calculate the overall cost of surrogacy process. Surrogacy costs can increase fast, so it is important for intended parents to do deep research and thing about the worst case scenario, just to be in the safe side.